Taken For Granted Happiness

March 7th, 2010

Even people with the happiest of happy dispositions navigate a world full of chaos. We do jobs that aren’t filled with tasks that bring smiles to our face; we have relationships full of ups and downs; we search for answers to all sorts of difficult questions; sad things happen to us and the people we love; uncertainty is a cloud that follows everyone; and we meet people who just try to push our cranky button.

Why? Because this is everyone’s life. The difference in either the naturally happy or the learned happy is that we try to accept, understand or learn from the chaos. That’s what makes life happier: navigating the chaos with a sense of purpose.

But in the middle of our happy but chaotic filled life, there are many happy moments that we just take for granted. We have common ones: breathing, walking, running, thinking new thoughts, laughing, seeing a sunrise and the full moon, hearing words, songs, and birds chirping, the feel of a hot shower or hug, feeling–even when the feelings aren’t so happy, and especially when they are happy. Most of these are miraculous experiences that we get for just being human.

If we literally counted each of these taken for granted moments of happiness, how many more happy moments would you have in a day? I’m willing to bet, more than the chaotic ones.

Tomorrow morning, when you wake up and stretch, and take a deep breathe, think, that’s two happy moments that I usually take for granted most days. Wow, what a happy way to start the day.

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Something to Celebrate

February 13th, 2010

It’s a rare week that virtually anyone, anywhere can find something to celebrate. Making for many happy moments in the coming days for many people.

Of course, the world is celebrating the Winter Olympics. Even if you don’t like sports most of us can’t help but cheer for the athletes from our country or for our favorite sport. Tune in and watch the quests for perfection and gold. Since I’m allergic to exercise, literally, (or I tell myself that), I’m simply amazed by the passion, dedication, and shear determination Olympic athletes have in their DNA. And I love those Olympic Canadian Red Mittens.

On Sunday, it’s Valentine’s Day. And while it’s extra special if you have a sweetheart, it’s also a time to remind everyone you love that you love them. You can send a free e-greeting (with a free trial) from American Greetings. And don’t forget in all the love sharing to give yourself a little R & R to show how much you love you~think bubble bath, chocolate, and a good movie.

Sunday kicks-off the Chinese New Year, the Year of the Tiger. It lasts 15 days, so make a point to have a little Chinese food and check out some of the other traditions. Who knows, they just might bring you a little extra luck this year.

And finally Fat Tuesday, begins on February 16th. I can only imagine the extra energy surrounding Mardi Gras with the recent New Orleans Saints Super Bowl win. Not going to New Orleans, or the multitude of other celebrating cities? You can still celebrate by cooking up some of Rachael Ray’s recipes, throwing some beads, and maybe wearing your favorite mask (you can make one with construction paper, glitter, beads, ribbon, and other bling stuff).

Have a happy week celebrating something…and keep us posted of your happy celebration.

Radio Interview Tonight & Happy Ground Hog Day!

February 1st, 2010

Tonight I’m being interviewed on Practical Spirituality with Glenn M Smith at 9:00 PM CST. Just click the link and then click Listen Now if you’d like to tune in.

Also, don’t forget you can see our daily quotes posted at the Secret Society of Happy People…or you can get them via Facebook or Twitter.

Tomorrow is Groundhog Day…are you cheering for winter to end or for it to stay a little longer? You can watch the online results live.

The Hunt for Happiness

January 18th, 2010

The Society is celebrating the 9th Annual Hunt for Happiness Week. And yes, there are a few lucky people who never seem to need to hunt for happiness. So, if that’s you just ignore this post.

But for the rest of us, there are days and moments when we have to hunt for happiness. Personally, quick happy boosters from me include listening to a happy song, calling a friend that makes me laugh or lets me vent, chatting on Facebook or Twitter, playing with Tater, or helping someone. If a black cloud rains on my parade I do something to change my mood instead of ignoring it. And sometimes, depending on the cause of the unhappiness, I have to sit in the storm, get wet, and wait to dry off before moving on. But that’s a different post. This one is about the storms that you can easily get out of.

One type of gloomy mood happens when there’s nothing really wrong in your life. Instead it’s because you have a heart. Something sad is happening to someone you love. Or you see something unhappy on the news and feel virtually helpless to do anything. Like the earthquake in Haiti. You can pray or donate time or money, but that alone doesn’t fix the problem. It’s bigger than one person. Speaking of Haiti, all profits from Society sales this week will go towards relief efforts for the earthquake survivors.

Giving, one of the 31 Types of Happiness, is one of the best things I can do to cheer myself up when I’m sad about something big or small. Giving is when you expect nothing in return for your time, money, empathy, or stuff. When you expect something back from your giving, well, that’s a trade not a gift and probably not a happiness booster.

The next type of black cloud that follows us is the unhappiness that results from everyday life chaos. Fighting the fight, surviving the day, or as my friend Lafferty Johnson calls it, playing The Big D!ck Contest. Can you get rid of this cloud? Not all of it. Can you ignore it? Not all of it. Can you happily co-exist with it? Usually. This is when your attitude counts. What are you going to focus on? Are you going to enroll in Misery University or just stroll by the admissions office.

Most of the time happiness is all around us. But sometimes it’s not easy to latch onto. Sometimes the chaos seems bigger and we need to hunt for happiness or we’ll miss it.

During Hunt for Happiness Week here’s your happiness challenge: Try something new each day. Can’t think of anything? Here are seven suggestions:

1. Pass out the Secret Society of Happy People I-Spy Coupons when you seem someone else have a happy moment. (This is borrowed happiness–one of the 31 Types of Happiness.)

2. Call a friend or relative you haven’t spoken to in at least 3 months.

3. Try a new recipe or restaurant.

4. Take a long bubble bath.

5. Find a new song that makes you want to dance.

6. Stop by that store you want to check out just because.

7. Instead of complaining about that annoying co-worker say something nice and mean it. (Creates happy karma.)

Let us know how you are celebrating Hunt for Happiness Week. Happy Hunting!!!

PS…If you’re not a Facebook Fan or Tweeter, check out our homepage for daily happy quotes and news.

Small Steps To Happy Endings

January 12th, 2010

Last night I was lying in bed thinking about all the things I planned to do starting this new year…I gave up on resolutions a long time ago, but can’t escape the desire to set goals every January. And shocker, as of January 11th, I haven’t done any of them. Eleven days into the new year and I was thinking tomorrow is a better day to start…

Then, as I was about to fall asleep, it flashed in my mind that getting started really isn’t about the big start. It’s about the many, many, many small steps that we need to take everyday. Once we start taking them, they eventually turn into milestones.

It’s about saying no to your sweet tooth just once a day at first, but eventually more. It’s about one walk around the block that eventually turns into a run. It’s about calling that unhappy, obnoxious customer one more time (for those of us in sales). It’s about answering just one more email or returning one more phone call. It’s about finishing your resume. It’s about cleaning out one drawer each week. It’s about reading five pages a day of the book you want to finish. It’s about taking ten minutes to sit in silence so you can find your intuitive zone.

Alone, none of these steps feels like a major accomplishment. But over time, you’ve lost weight, added a new customer, kept your email or voice mail box clean, organized your house, found a new job, finished a book, and found a few moments of serenity. Small steps will take you to your happy ending, but you won’t get there if you don’t start walking. And yes, I started walking today…very small steps but I started.

What happy ending are you taking small steps to achieve?

To get daily quotes and current happy news visit our homepage (or become a Facebook Fan).

Hunt for Happiness Week begins January 17.

Happiest Events and Moments of 2009 & the Decade

January 1st, 2010

5. Hostages released and found: Laura Ling and Euna Lee were released from North Korea; Jaycee Dugard was found and reunited with her family after 18 years.

4. Captain Sullenberger became an unexpected, but much needed hero with the Miracle on the Hudson.

3. Twitter became a household name and united millions when brave Iranians tweeted out their version of elections gone bad; and millions of others connected with their 140 character tweets.

2. Susan Boyle reminded everyone it’s not too late to follow their dreams when she competed in Britain’s Got Talent and has sold 2.98 million records.

1. A decade of unhappiness that includes wars, unprecedented natural disasters, recessions, almost financial collapse, increased terrorism, and political unrest finally ends with the hopes of a happier decade beginning in 2010.

Happiest Moment of the Decade: The Science of Happiness Turns 10

Hunt for Happiness Week begins January 17.

Have Yourself a Small, But Memorable Christmas

December 20th, 2009

Everywhere you go you can’t help but hear, “We’re not having a big Christmas this year.” It always seems to be said with a tinge of sadness. So, it got me thinking about my childhood “big” Christmases. And you know, there’s not one big Christmas that truly stands out. Yes, some years I got more expensive stuff…nicer jewelry, more toys or more money for shopping. But that stuff came and went.

My two favorite all time Christmas presents are a plastic holiday sled pin and a miniature pewter Coca-Cola train.

I got the pin in the most unhappy of circumstances when I was 14. My dad’s brother had cancer and 9 months after he was diagnosed his battled ended in December. At the funeral in Colorado, I met my aunt Liz’s, great-aunt Marge who was from Seattle. I’m from Texas. We bonded and aunt Marge made a tough few days easier. That year she sent me the pin and ashes from Mount Saint Helen’s. I love that pin because of who gave it to me not what it cost.

My mother gave me the Coca-Cola miniature train her last Christmas. I collect Coca-Cola kitchen stuff. I get to see it every day and it reminds me of her and that she wanted to get me something I’d love…and I do.

Think about what you love about Christmas. I bet it’s the small traditions. Decorating the tree or in my case, trees. Baking cookies or eating a certain dish every Christmas Eve. Wondering if aunt whoever is going to have a few too many glasses of wine and share a few more details than the kids need to hear. Loading everyone in the car to look at Christmas lights. Getting new Christmas PJ’s every Christmas Eve. Going somewhere every year.

Christmas is really about the memories we create with the people we love. Most gifts are ultimately expendable. You won’t even remember what you got the following year. So does big and expensive really matter? The important gifts at Christmas happen every time you do something that creates a tradition or makes a memories with the people that you love. It really is the small things that stay in our hearts. So my thought, have yourself a small, but memorable Christmas, every year.

Last Year’s Blog: I Believe In Santa Clause

Nominate the Happiest Events & Moments of 2009

December 6th, 2009

What do you think were the Happiest Events and Moments of 2009? Think globally for this list, but you can also comment here on your personal highlights. Think sports, arts, business, entertainment, books, music, politics, & science…we like to include things from all walks of life. Check out the past lists.

Also, if you’re not a Facebook Fan or Tweeter visit our www.sohp.com often to get a daily quote and other happy links (today there’s the cutest video of a kitten and last week we had a video of dogs decorating a Christmas tree–just scroll down and you can see it).

Happily we had a great response to FREE shipping on all orders last Monday and Tuesday…so we’re doing it again December 6-8 or now through Tuesday. We have T-shirts, Happy Treasurers with 365 happy quotes, memberships, books, and bumper stickers. The shipping will show up in your order, but it won’t be billed on your credit card. If you ordered something last week, the orders will start going out this week…sorry for the delay…but there’s a production time for the Happy Treasures.

Thanks…and happy holidays!!!

Happy Cyber Monday & Tuesday: FREE Shipping

November 29th, 2009

Since we’re trying to be internet hip, we’re going to have a Cyber Monday & Tuesday Sale…any domestic Secret Society of Happy People orders will get FREE Shipping (shipping charges will appear at check-out but will be credited from the total when the order is submitted on your credit card).

We have Happy Treasures: treasure box with 365 happy quotes-perfect for the I don’t know what to give gift or for someone who’s happy, SOHP Memberships, T-shirts, & Bumper Stickers.

Happy Cyber Monday!!!

PS…Offer good on all orders placed at this time…

Your orders help support the Society’s mission to make the world a little happier.

Happy Holiday Newsletter Tips

November 25th, 2009

Dear Santa

The Society received its first media attention in December 1998 when Ann Landers told people not to send those happy holiday newsletters–we called it parade-raining.

However, the Society doesn’t advocate either writing or reading holiday newsletters. I learned the hard way that people have strong feelings about them. But we did get lots of feedback about what people do and do not like about them…so if you’re a letter writer, you might find these holiday newsletter tips and samples helpful.

Secret Society of Happy People merchandise makes the perfect holiday gift for those happy people you know.

Happy Treasures Update: All Christmas orders need to be placed by December 6 for holiday arrival.