Release the Frustration
Like life, no job or company is perfect. There will be days you are frustrated with your boss, big bosses, coworkers or customers. Some days, all at the same time. Many times there’s not a viable solution to really resolve for your frustration. And by viable I mean one that you can control.
When this happens you need to ask yourself if you need a mental health day, a break from the frustration. If so, try to take it. Your mental health is as important as your physical health.
But if that’s not possible, or if you’re frustrated by something that a mental health day isn’t going to help, you still need to release your frustration. If you don’t it will come out sideways: You’ll be short with your waiter, a cashier or customer service rep; get mad at your kids or spouse for things that’d normally don’t bother you; or you’ll overeat, happy hour too much or quit sleeping (we all have stress coping mechanisms that aren’t healthy).
The best way to avoid the sideways frustration release is to do a proactive frustration release. Consider things like:
1. Talk it out. Talk to a trusted work friend, or a friend outside of work. But don’t express your exasperation more than 3 times. The point is to let go of your frustration not stoke its embers. If you don’t have a safe person to talk to then consider a career coach or therapist. If you have an Employee Assistance Program you might qualify for free counseling sessions.
2. Exercise. Walk it out. Join a kick-boxing class. Shoot basketball hoops. Play tennis. Go to a yoga class. Move your body and breathe so the frustration doesn’t just sit in your body. That’s when it becomes toxic.
3. Find a silly outlet. My favorite one is the Dammit Doll (https://dammitdolls.com/Home). I’m not getting paid to share the link – but you can also find them on Etsy or make one with a sock. You can keep it in your desk drawer or purse and when you need to vent just hit your desk or something with it. The point is to have something you can do to diffuse your frustration.
Frustration is part of life and that includes work. Your goal is to manage it so it doesn’t manage you by siphoning away your happiness.