Find A Happier You In 5 Days
Do you ever feel “happy challenged”?
You know… the times when you know you aren’t depressed (if you are, talk to your doctor right away), but you also know that you could feel a little happier.
For many people, this can happen when you’re inundated with happiness zappers:
• Competitive Happiness
• Technology Inundation
It’s awful, right? Even though your plate is full of happiness zappers, you still want to feel your usual happy when happiness happens.
If you Google, “how to be happier,” more than 182M results pop-up. Even THAT’s overwhelming…
The solutions range from things science has taught us that make us happier, to self-help tips, to philosophical happiness. Trying to figure out what to try first can feel a little daunting, even to me.
Although you want to feel happier, feeling happy can be more complex than it appears. After all, your happiness:
- Is personal – If asked, “Do you like chocolate cake?” Some of you will say yes, and some of you are turning up your noses.
- Changes as your circumstances change — If you didn’t get any sleep last night, going dancing the next night probably won’t make you as happy as putting on your PJ’s and going to sleep early.
- Changes as you change — When you’re the parent of a toddler, you’re happy when you get ten minutes to yourself. When you’re the parent of a teenager, you’re happy when your child wants to spend ten minutes with you.
So, what is happiness anyway? And how on Earth do you go about finding your happy again?
Last year, when the Society was celebrating its 20th Birthday, Sean Giggy, a reporter from WFAA (ABC), asked me what I’ve learned about happiness during that time. After pondering that question for a bit, it occurred to me that despite all of the happiness science, for me happiness is more of a mindset.
Looking back twenty years, the principles that make up my happiness mindset, which have let me stay a mostly happy person for most of my life, haven’t changed that much since I started the Society. I’ve never really shared them, in part, because the Society has never told people how to be happy, other than identifying more happiness — which is one of the principles.
However, one BIG change that’s happened recently, is that it seems more and more people are happy challenged; even our Society member surveys show this. So, now feels like the right time to share what I call my Practical Happiness Principles:
• Happiness Zappers Zap Everyone
• Happiness Is Personal
• Happiness Changes as You Change
• Happiness is Bigger Than You Think
Introducing – 5 Days To A Happier You
I’ve incorporated these principles in the 5 Happier You cheat sheets that you’ll get for the next five days to help you rethink your happiness mindset and find a happier you.
Happiness Zappers Zap Everyone
Some happiness zappers are controllable, others are uncontrollable and some are a bit of both. Whatever your happiness zappers are, if you don’t manage them, they manage you. How you manage your happiness zappers may impact as much as 50% of your happiness, so this principle has two cheat sheets:
- Identifying Happiness Zappers
- Creating Your ZAP-MAP (Zapper Management Action Plan)
Happiness Is Personal
This cheat sheet helps you identify some of your Personal Happiness Makers and the last time they made you smile.
Happiness Changes As You Change
This cheat sheet helps you identify some of our Past Happiness to compare with your Present Happiness so you can see how some things have changed.
Happiness is Bigger Than You Think
This cheat sheet helps you expand your definition of happiness with the Society’s 31 Types of Happiness.
Will 5 Days to a Happier You make you happy all of the time? No. But will it help you rethink your happiness mindset to notice more of your current happy moments? Yes, it will.
I’d offer you a refund if “5 Days to a Happier You” didn’t make you smile more, but instead, I’m giving it away for free. Why? Because I want you to embrace and recognize all of the happy moments that cross your path — because each one is priceless.
What Others Are Saying About
“5 Days To A Happier You”
I have to admit, I did get “stuck” on the first cheat sheet. I wasn’t sure if the “Zapper” was controllable by me or whether my happiness – in spite of the “Zapper” was controllable.
The exercise was a good way to identify reasons to be happy, either things I already do to invoke happiness or the things I can do to invoke happiness.
Highly recommend watching the video before doing the worksheets. The video explains it all.
Pam, I loved the workbook. It definitely made me realize what makes me HAPPY now, in the past and where to look for happiness in the future.
Step 1 was enlightening. I am going through a difficult time right now and using a worksheet to see what I can and cannot control was really helpful.
By the 5th worksheet, I was less tense and had learned the Practical Happiness Principles to use on myself.
I’m not going to lie – at times it made me cry to do the work. VERY cleansing.
My favorite happiness concept (and associated tools) is expanding the definition of happiness.
I like the APP tracker, again, probably because it focuses (for me) on linking to happiness concepts, not what zaps or impacts my happiness.
Perhaps the “Pollyanna” approach to happiness… (the Glad Game) is too embedded in my personality to represent how “normal” deal with their happiness quotient.
I appreciate you letting me share my experience with you. Your commitment to making the world a happier place for everyone is commendable. Your energy and passion are evident in all of the tools, workshops, books, FB pages, shirts and accessories you have shared.
I will support your quest wherever and however I can. Why? Because it brings me happiness to do so, of course.